What is bullying?
Bullying is behaviour that hurts someone else. It might involve someone pushing you, hitting you, calling you names or making nasty comments about you online. It can happen anywhere, at home, school or online.
Nobody has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad. It can happen to anyone at any time. The important thing to remember is that you are not alone and there are lots of things that might help.
What is Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying is any form of bullying which takes place on or via smartphones/tablets. Social networking sites, messaging apps, gaming and other sites such as Facebook, Xbox Live, Instagram, YouTube, Snapchat.
With the increase of social networking sites, online activity and messaging apps, cyberbullying is on the increase. In a survey by Ditch the Label, 47% of young people who took the survey have received nasty profile comments and 62% have been sent nasty private messages via smartphone apps.
(source Bullying UK)
Top tips if you are being bullied
1. TALK to someone you trust – parent, teacher, friend, sibling or coach etc
2. Be assertive – it’s ok to say “NO” firmly – stand up for yourself. Do not retaliate and walk away
3. Keep a diary/notes of what is happening – this can be used as evidence, if needed
4. If you are being cyber bullied – take breaks from social media, block and/or report people
5. Look after yourself, make sure you are practising good self-care
6. Visit a website or contact a helpline – see our suggestions below.
“No one has the right to criticize you for how your body looks, but they will. One thing I’ve learned from experiencing this exact kind of criticism is that no one else can label your body except for you. No one gets to have a place in your mind if they weren’t invited there by you. So please do me this one favour: Don’t let their ugly words into your beautiful mind.”
“I was a victim of bullying back in school. My advice is to always tell someone straight away and ask for help. Keeping it to yourself will only be more damaging in the long run.”
“Nobody should suffer in silence and it’s a brave step for a child to speak out about bullying at school and try and get help from friends, teachers and family members.”
What to Do if you think you are the Bully?
There is lots of helpful information for people who think they might be bullied, but what about those who are the bullies?
Check out the BBC Website for some helpful information and advice.
REMEMBER, it is never ok to bully others.
Services You Can Contact for Support and Advice
Young Minds – SHOUT -24hr crisis support – text 85258 which connects you to a trained practitioner or go to:
Childline – 0800 1111
Kooth – Online counselling
Mon-Fri 12.00pm to 10.00pm – Sat-Sun 6.00pm to 10.00pm
Samaritans – 116 123
National Bullying Helpline
Ditch The Label
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